how do you get a girl

Approaching Women

2009-02-03T15:12:00.000-08:00

Objective value doesn't exist, only perceived value does. Although women are usually not attracted to men of lesser value than themselves, you can do a lot to increase your value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is established, determining your value in relation to hers. When you allow a woman's perceived value to intimidate you, or make you feel of lesser value than her, you are unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to stop fretting about some aspect of her being of higher value than some aspect of you, plundering you of your self-esteem. When interacting with a woman, if you ever feel ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her sophistication or like a retarded little spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever, change your focus of attention. See the bigger picture. Realize that when first meeting a woman you paint a picture in your mind of who you think she is, based on a few aspects you observe about her. This picture usually ends up being way off base. Learn to take control of your perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her beauty, imagine what she looks like in the morning without her makeup; if her sophistication renders you tongue-tied, consider that she might be putting on an act to impress you; if you start worrying about how much older you are than her, imagine how much worse she's going to look when she's your age...and so on.

This one actually rings some truth. Let me explain. If you see a woman and immediately, in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you are figuratively butt ramming yourself, because you are setting the frame that she is the Prize, not you. As those of you who have read my book know, women do not feel attraction for men who are not the PRIZE. Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and abstain from bowing down to her.

Don't be anything like the other clueless men

2009-02-02T22:55:00.000-08:00

Don't be anything like the other clueless men, and start complementing her, be all submissive to her every demand, using cheesy pick-up lines, because women, esp beautiful ones, they are IMMUNE to such wussy like guys, its just too 'easy'/boring for them.

Instead, you should DEVELOP traits that women will normally find attractive in a man:

Confidence (not acting insecure & needy)
Being unapologetic when you're talking to her in a charming & funny way
Not accepting bitchy behaviour from her or anyone else
Have strong control of YOUR composure and SHOWING to her that you're not at all INTIMIDATED by her looks & let her know that SHE has to be the one to IMPRESS you
Flirtatious/charming character & body language

Having all these traits immediately throws women off their tracks because these are all things that they LEAST expect in their interactions with men.

I hope you're getting what I am trying to say here.

Oh and here's a little something on "pick-up lines"

Guys are always searching for the latest and best pick up lines.

My advice is - FORGET pick up lines.

At this day and age, women automatically turn themselves "off" to pick up lines, especially cheesy ones.

They get 'hit' by them over a thousand times in their lifetime - Don't get me wrong, really, REALLY good pick lines can work at times, but it can only get you as far as the first 30 seconds and that's it.

What happens AFTER you've run out of 'cool' lines then?

How are you going to "keep her interested" & keep the Game going then?

Bottom line, pick up lines are the OLD FASHIONED way of approaching women.

Imagine And Get Girls

2009-02-02T11:55:00.000-08:00

Imagine if you're a sales person who's job is to sell credit cards.

Don't you think it's much easier for you to close the sale when you have call-in or walk-in prospective clients who walks into the bank and tells you "I'm interested to apply for a credit card. What do you need?"

Same applies here when you're dating women.

You'll get far better results if you can "draw" her in & get HER interested to come after you instead.

Don't you think it'll be WAY easier to "close" her when she's ALREADY interested in you?

And exactly how do you do that?

Again in business.

What differentiates a successful multi-million dollar business from a struggling or an average "so-so" one?

The answer is 'differentiation'.

Successful business owners knows that in order for a customer to choose their products over their MANY other competitors, they will have to come out with a product, a business system or marketing concepts that are truly 'indifferent'.

The have to be unique and really STAND OUT from the rest.

Same goes in the seduction game.

If you want to become really successful in it, you've got to differentiate yourself by becoming truly unique, but in a very EXCITING and ATTRACTIVE way.

You see, if you've set your sight on a physically attractive woman, fact is that many other guys will ALSO find her attractive and would go straight on and hit on them.

On average, top-dog, hot looking women normally gets hit on at least, a minimum of 5-8 times -- every single day.

Now honestly ask yourself; what will your chances of 'scoring' with her be like if you were to act and do the EXACT SAME things like the the REST OF THE OTHER GUYS who are hitting on her that particular day?

Answer - most likely, zero.

If you really want to stand above the rest of them, you have to be truly unique and INDIFFERENT in your approach.

Most guys try to "convince" a woman to feel attracted to them by giving them compliments, gifts, buying them expensive dinners, etc with the HOPE that they will fall for them.

This NEVER works.

Attraction happens instantly or NOT at all.

Plain and simple.

Get that DRILLED into your head

As guys, we were normally taught by our parents that the best way to get a girl is for us to be 'nice, gentle, caring and loving' guys.

"Just show her you care, be there for her whenever she needs you, be a romantic, send her flowers, and constantly pursue her."

"Do this persistently and one fine day, she'll [naturally] develop feelings for you and will fall for you".

Frankly speaking, back during the 50s, 60s and 70s, such 'wussy-like' techniques could work.

I mean, that was exactly how our dads normally courted our moms anyway, right?

If it worked for them then, in theory, it would definitely work for us now, right?

I used to think that this should be the way.

But I was dead wrong.

In fact, when I first started developing interest for girls, I tried this tactic myself, and went through many a heart break along the way.

It's now the new millenium and we have to move along with times. Things change, technology change, people change, WOMEN change; naturally the DATING SCENE has changed as well.

For me, one of the best ways for you to get the women you desire is for you to first -- Change your mindset.

Stop going after the girl.

Traditionally, it was the guy who has to go after the girl. But the "dating" scene has EVOLVED so much since the time of our forefathers, it doesn't have to be this way anymore!

In fact, if you want to be successful with women -- your mindset MUST be changed where your goal right now is to 'se.xually attract' HER to come after YOU...

... and no it is NOT impossible!

Let me give you an example...

You see, apart from teaching guys to be more successful with women, I am also an entrepreneur and I sell software products to my clients from all over the world.

For me, I tend to find it much EASIER to sell products to people who are ALREADY interested in my products or services rather than trying to cold call a prospective client and try to 'sell' it to them.

Attraction Techniques

2009-01-31T06:57:00.001-08:00

One of the best things you can do to set the groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them strive to fill the quota of your ideal female. So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave like a spineless little worm, asking her questions such as: “How am I doing with you?” Instead, when she behaves in ways that go against your standards and expectations of women, let her know that she is losing points with you - and losing points quickly!

As those of you know who have been reading my newsletters and have read my book: Attraction is not what a woman says she wants. If attraction was what women say they prefer, then I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke guys experiencing massive success with women. But I do.

If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose and hang yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get a woman to like you by attempting to live up to her ideal preferences in a man is a one way ticket to transforming your ego into a proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall dark handsome rich men, packing dogs with garden hose length and telephone pole girth. Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall short of their expectations you better be lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par, you could always get silicon butt cheek implants. But forewarning: Your black-and-blue rear will be so sore that you won't be able to sit down for a month.

Attraction, contrary to this, is about you creating the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they do manage to generate the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of them. And this, my friend, is why they are massively successful with women. The art of creating this emotion in women is what I call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of different techniques for PRIZING women, some of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops, Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.

Don't wear a suit out to the bar

2009-01-31T06:53:00.000-08:00

Don't wear a suit out to the bar, but try to dress one step ahead of your friends when you head out for the night. When I have asked women what are the main things they notice on a man they tell me: shoes, fingernails (short and clean), and wrist watch. It doesn't have to be expensive to look good.

Women want a guy that is interesting to talk to. Keep up on events and also consider keeping up on celebrity gossip. Most women read gossip magazines and there is a reason for that. Be able to talk to her about things she cares about.

Do not settle for any girl. Know what kind of woman you are looking for. Your attitude here plays a big girl in getting the exact woman you are after. It is a good idea to be choosy.

Pay attention to a woman and then ignore her for a while. Woman always want what they can't have, and this will work wonders when you are flirting with them. This tactic will screw with a woman's psychology and keep her on her toes. Switching it up between "hot" and "cold" will keep the game of flirting fun.

You need to be the one that is pursued...not the other way around. You need to place a very high value on yourself. Making yourself the prize drives women crazy in a good way. It is ok to be the alpha male!